Some believe that players don't quit soccer. They left a coach. But it is much more complex than that. It's easy to blame that one obnoxious coach as the reason a player stops. But when I talk to players who quit, it's about their experience with the game. They are leaving because the game is no longer enjoyable, and they are not growing as a person and a player.
As a coach, I significantly influence the player's experience. But so does the parent. And the player also brings something. Everyone is trying to find success. Made even more difficult because talent and skill are not equal in every player. And the performance path is not the same for every player.
One secret to taking your game to the next level is understanding how you arrive at success at the speed of trust.
Trust is relying on someone else to do the right thing. Trust grows when you believe in someone's integrity and expertise, to the extent that you're willing to put yourself on the line to do what they ask you to do. Trust is essential to be an effective teammate because it enables you to feel safe and free to contribute.
Players quit soccer for many valid reasons. But for those who have left soccer early, before their time, I believe it could be from a lack of trust. And we all have a role to play in building trust. Yes, the coach is a central figure in building trust. But you, as a parent or player, also have a role in building confidence.
There are many ways to build trust. Here are three you can focus on right now:
Be honest — say what you mean, and mean what you say. What you tell yourself and what you communicate to others. While it seems so simple, it is hard to do.
Be vulnerable — gradually open up and let people into your life. It takes time to earn and give respect. And while vulnerability can be messy at the moment, clarity and strength soon follow.
Be willing to give and receive. It's not easy to share. It requires sacrifice. Because it requires you to admit you are in need.
If you're struggling right now on your soccer journey, I want to help. So join the Next Level Soccer Academy, and let's see if we can't get you back on track to rediscover your passion for the game.
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